Are You Avoiding Conflict?

An all-too-common way to handle conflict is to avoid it. But avoiding conflict doesn’t make it go away. Instead, conflict continues to be a simmering problem that isn’t resolved.

Resolving conflict begins with being willing to talk about it. If you have decided to talk through conflict, here’s a few questions to ask yourself before the conversation begins.

Is this an emotional reaction or a rational response? Take a moment to check yourself. Think. Clarify within your own mind what the issue really is. A rational response sticks to the issue. An emotional reaction hinders your ability to communicate well.

How can I validate the other person’s opinions while communicating my own thoughts? The other person has their own concerns and viewpoint. Begin to work toward a solution by noting what is valid about their viewpoint and how it connects with yours. Finding points in common is a start to a workable compromise.

What do I hope to get out of this discussion? Fruitful discussion results in compromise or joint solutions to try. If you just want to prove yourself right (and them wrong), then nothing gets solved and the conflict will continue to simmer. Be prepared to listen more than you talk. Be willing to offer up solutions.

Don’t try to avoid conflict but be thoughtful about the way you approach and communicate with others. You may be surprised by becoming an expert in resolving conflict.